So Happy Together

When I tell friends that my husband and I work together from a home office, it’s not unusual for them to comment, “I don’t know how you do it.”

I know they’re not talking about the challenges I might face in doing the “work,” or even the disruption of my domain caused by having a “home office.” No, it’s the “together” part of my statement ““ the concept of spending all-day every-day with your husband ““ that they think would require an almost impossible amount of patience. I think they imagine that it’s like always being with a demanding toddler, except that when it’s your husband, you can’t send him for a time-out when you don’t like the way he behaves.

On the other side of the coin, I’m sure there are equally as many times that Steve tells someone that he and his wife are business partners and he gets the same “I don’t know how you do it” response. I think they imagine that it’s like always being with a premenstrual teenage girl, except that when it’s your wife, you can’t send her to her room for a good cry.

Although there are certainly days when Steve can be somewhat urgent in his demands (“Is it ok if I wait to send the Fed Ex package until after I’m out of the shower?”) and my pre-menopausal moodiness makes me more than a little snappy (“The damn package will go out today”¦honey.”) all in all, we are both grateful to be working with each other.

No one is more surprised than I am, that I can spend every waking and sleeping hour with anyone, no matter who it is, and not break out in a rash. In college, I’d start getting pretty prickly after about a day with my best friend. But for most of every day, I am less than two feet apart from Steve. And not only do I manage to tolerate it, I truly enjoy it.

Even though there is the occasional chafing. “Do you have to sneeze so loudly?” I know that we are able to overlook those inevitable irritations because we have pledged to love and honor one another.

So, my statement for most people who spend eight hours a say with somebody who just happens to be in the same profession as them is: “I don’t know how you do it.”


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